Why Only Dangerous Men Can Protect What Matters

Are You Harmless… or Truly Safe?

Aug 26, 2025

Hello everyone, I hope you are having a great day. Today we will discuss one of the biggest lies that has been pushed to man; it is the lie that says safety is harmlessness, a harmless man is a safe man, and that safety comes from the ability to not harm.

That could not be more untrue, as a harmless man is not virtuous. He is simply useless. This is the harsh reality that this lie is masking: you are useless and vulnerable if you are harmless as a man. I am not speaking for women here, as a vulnerable woman has her uses.

As harsh as it is, the world doesn’t need more men who avoid conflict. It needs men capable of great violence who choose restraint. The difference between a beast and a dangerous man is that the man is capable of violence but chooses restraint. Restraint and violence must come hand in hand for safety to materialize, because if not, chaos takes over.

This is the brutal truth society doesn’t want men to hear.

The LIE men have been sold

Modern society mistakes safety with softness, and this is what they want you to believe. This is where the lie comes from, and to be honest, if this was indeed true, then the world would be the safest it has ever been, and you know that it is not the case here.

Boys today, not only are they fatherless, but they are also taught to suppress aggression, ambition, and assertiveness by their mothers, as it is viewed as unsafe. The ones that were supposed to teach them those values that society is suppressing are intentionally pushed away, and it shouldn’t be surprising to see that this generation of men can’t protect, can’t provide, and can’t be trusted under pressure, and some of them intentionally give in to aggression and assertiveness as rebellion. This is why we have so much juvenile delinquency. This what mistaking safety with softness has done to the world

My point here is women don’t feel safe around weak men, yet they have given boys no opportunity for them to avoid becoming weak men. That is why it is your responsibility as a man/boy to work on yourself. Moreover, weak men are unpredictable because they lack control. History shows tyrants and abusers were often insecure, powerless men overcompensating.

Ancient warrior wisdom

This idea that dangerousness in men invokes safety is not new at all; our ancestors knew about and wrote about this. The Stoics, like Seneca, wrote that anger should be controlled, not eradicated, since they knew that it can be used to channel fire into justice. From the perspective of Christianity, we can see that even Christ was depicted as both the lamb and the lion; meekness meant “power under control,” not weakness.

They fundamentally knew before us that true safety is forged in capability, not the absence of it. Think of the Spartans at Thermopylae. Three hundred men stood against an empire, not because they lacked danger within themselves, but because they had mastered it. Their lethal discipline was precisely what made them a shield for the rest of Greece.

Understand this…

What I want you to understand is that harmlessness ≠ safety, which means that danger under discipline = safety. Essentially, a man capable of violence but governed by self-mastery is the safest man to have nearby. Society is hiding this from you, especially if you live in the West, because danger under discipline does not make you gullible and docile, as they want you to be; it makes you the opposite.

Women, children, and communities instinctively not only trust men who carry that energy but also are attracted to those men; there are many examples of this in history and in fiction, such as Marcus Aurelius and George Washington or Geralt of Rivia and Norse sage Kratos, and I must say that Kratos embodies this principle the most. All of those who understand my point will agree with this: Without power, your “kindness” is just passivity, not virtue.

A sword in its sheath is only peaceful because it can cut.

You are society

Now, let’s not forget who “society” is: it is us.

Each and every one of us is society, whether we like it or not. I can keep pointing fingers at this metaphysical presence that is society, but it is still just us, which means that we are all guilty for believing and spreading the lie, but simultaneously we are the solution; we can make the necessary changes to stop this lie from spreading further.

It is never so simple as “we are the good guys and they are the bad guys”; it is always very nuanced, and in the same way, the solutions to stopping the lie are nuanced.

So, if you’ve been trained to be “nice,” you’ve been neutered. If you’re proud of being harmless, you’re not safe. You’re disposable. Your family, your woman, and your future do not need a harmless man. They need a dangerous man they can trust. It might hurt to read this, I know, because I once stood before this realization, with a bruised ego, unwilling to understand. Yet I am right here showing you this realization with acceptance of it.

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An Actionable Path for you

I give you here the steps to embody the “dangerous but safe” characteristics in you. First begin with Training the body through strength training, martial arts, and combat sports. So you carry the quiet confidence of knowing you can break someone if necessary. Then train the mind: to sharpen the mind, use practices to stay calm under stress: cold exposure, fasting, and meditation under fatigue.

Next use Control Aggression: Instead of suppressing rage, learn to channel it into lifting, running, creating, and building. On this topic I have a post named “Sacred Aggression” that goes into more details if you are interested, so go check it out. Develop a Moral Code: Decide what you fight for, what feels right to do, and what feels wrong to do. Go deep into it, read books about morality, and make yourself a moral code. You don’t have to make a book about your morals, just 4 or 5 phrases about what you fight for, what feels right to do, and what is wrong to do. Dangerous power without ethics is chaos.

Practice Restraint: Daily rituals of self-denial, such as semen retention, fasting, and delayed gratification, sharpen discipline and transform willpower into controlled strength.

Fighting the lie

I know that being aware of the lie and recognizing its destructive power is important, but we can do more than just be aware. In this section, I will give you different ways we can fight the lie. Before starting, we have to recognize that there is no short-term way to fight it, so all of these methods will require long-term commitment. You also need to understand for whom you are doing this: for yourself or for others.

One thing we can do is reframe strength as responsibility, not violence. Don’t teach; show them that aggression and ambition aren’t inherently bad, they are raw energies, by being an example of those qualities. When disciplined, they become courage, leadership, and innovation.

This next point goes along with the last point: we need more positive and present fathers and male role models. Boys who grow up with examples of honorable men learn how to channel strength into virtue. Without them, boys are left confused about masculinity.

We need rites of passage, whether it is for yourself or for your son. Historically, societies had rituals and challenges to mark the transition from boyhood to manhood. Reintroducing some form of rite of passage (physical, mental, or spiritual challenges) gives boys the opportunity to test themselves, earn respect, and step into manhood. In my own experience semen retention is the best rite of passage for men today because it teaches them to control and fight off the sex desire and lust that puts you in a mental state very different from the one before SR, although you need much more to transition from boyhood to manhood.

Self-mastery is necessary as the foundation. A man who cannot control himself (his urges, emotions, and desires) cannot be trusted to control anything external. Spreading the idea of discipline, whether through fitness, semen retention, stoic practices, or service, destroys the lie by proving strength and safety can coexist.

And lastly, the thing that could help the most people is a community of men. Stop isolating yourself. Encourage brotherhood, mentorship, and tribes of men who hold each other accountable. Weakness can thrive in isolation; strength always thrives in community.

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